Guangzhou City's Standard and Quality of Living

Standard of living is measured by objective such as goods, services and a country's infrastructure. Quality of life is measured by subjective such as relationship, crim rates, etc.
I had lived in Guangzhou mainland China for 22 years. Guangzhou is a modern city. At the surface, Guangzhou city looks very good. Goods, services and city's infrastructure caught your eyes. To be honest, the quality of those things are really bad. Toxic food is full of coutry. From toxic rice to toxic milk-powered, everything has fake, let alone the infrastructure. Under chinese communist party control, moral standard is going down worst. People harm each other just for a little bit personal gain. Corruption become government's chacrateristic. People suffer a lot. Sactisfaction is extremely low. In Guangzhou, the low level standard of living, the lower quality of life.

The Trumpet of Conscience

The article "The Trumpet of Conscience" by Martin Luther King expressed that King supported non-violence and opposited violence of the war in Vietnam. Government had been making poverty program to help poor people. Because of involving the war in Vietnam, poverty program was broken. The black young men were sent to Vietnam to guarante liberties in South east Asia and they hadn't own them in South America. Segregated accommodations must had been ended up.

Create an outline of Tell White Lies (Occasionally)

Thesis: Tell white lies occasionally

I. Occasionally, courtesy calls for a white lie

II. Not every truth should be told
III.White lie protect people from unnessary hurt


Conclusion: Use white lie wisely

Courtesy: Key to a Happier World

Thesis: Life’s difficulties would be minimized if people were more courteous to each other.

I. Basic ingredients of good manners

A. Justice

B. Empathy

C. Capacity

II. Three ways to improve one’s manners

A. Practice courtesy

1. Single-minded on what you are doing

2. Don’t let others’ bad manners make you rude

B. Positive thinking way

C. Be able to accept courtesy

Conclusion. Politeness is the golden rule in action.

Responsible to The Friendship Bond

The article "The Friendship Bond" written by W. R. Smalzer is about friendship bond. Smalzer believes friendship is built between two people with warmth and love. Trust and acceptance are the friendship's foundation. Psychology Today's survey shows people think that five qualities, that are trust, honest, accepts, supports me and understands me, are important to their friendship. And then, betrayed by a friend and having different view on important issues are the two reasons to end up friendship. Social psychologists think that trust and friendship are going together.
This article is interesting. Smalzer says,"Both members in a friendship must be open with and trust one another for their relationship to become deeper. " I agree with Smalzer. Trust is very important factor in friendship. If I don't trust this person, I won't say anything to him, let alone being a friend. Trust plays fundamental role in friendship. Human's feeling is very complicated. It relates many aspects. I experienced that I had met a person on a party. She gave me first impression was amazing. I felt she would be my sister in the past life. I became a talkative in front of her. After that, we became good friends. We had a lot of interactions like family members. We shared our views on different issues, shopping together and traveling together if possible, etc. Staying with her, I felt comfortable and relax. I was very happy to have a friend sharing my happiness and unhappiness. 12 years passed, we still are good friends. Looking back, if I didn't trust her, I wouldn't be open and socialize with her, and vice versa. Certainly, we weren't good friends. Smalzer's view that the two most important building blocks of friendship are trust and acceptance is really sensible.

Do you think the message in Maugham's story is the same as or different from the message in the Aesop's fable of the ant and the grasshoppe?

I think the message in Maugham's story is different from the passage in the Aesop's fable of the ant and the grasshopper. In the ant and the grasshopper, the moral is to save for the future and you won't be without. But opposite in Maugham's story. Tom is like the grasshopper, but he gets every thing through married an old women. George is really working hard like the ant, but he gets less. He fails to predict Tom will be end of gutter. This makes him very jealous.

Home Work April 8

According to Lucille K. Forer in her article,"How Your Birth Order Influences Your Life Adjustment," the child recognizes his position in the family depending on his or her parents how to treat him or her.

Question 6

What limits do the respondents put on friendship? Can you be good friends with someone and say no to him or her?
The limits is that a friend should help another commit suicide if the friend wanted to but was too feeble to do it alone. If my good friend ask me to help her commit suicide, I will say no to her.

Question 5

What two rules of friendship do the respondents mention? Do you follow the same rules for your friend?
The respondents mentioned the two rules of friendship are the rights to ask for help, and presumably the obligation to help a friend is also implicitly acknowledged.
I don't follow the same rules for my friend.

Question 3

What are the two reasons given for ending a friendship? Which of the two reasons makes more sense to you?

The two reasons for ending a friendship are feeling betrayed by a friend and discovering that a friend had very different views on issues. I think feeling betrayed makes more sense to me.

Question 2

What five qualities did people say were most important to them in a friend? Would you list the same five qualities? In the same order?


People said five qualties were most important to them in a friend. they were loyalty, ability, warmth, affection and supportiveness. Yes. I listed the same five qualities and the same order.

Question 1

Why did social critics expect people to be disatisfied with their friendships? In what were the critics' expectations wrong?

Hills Like White Elephants

The story "Hills Like White Elephants" written by Hemingway is about an American man and her girlfriend's arguement. The girl has pregnant and wants to keep this baby. But her boyfriend, an American man,doesn't want this baby. He is trying to convince the girl to abortion. This story looks like very simple, but it's hard to understand. I need to think a lot to figure out what the story is talking about. A lot of meaning are behind the lines.

Question 4 (Yuyun and Hadelly )

4. What three activities are most characteristic among friends in this survey? There are three activities are most characteristic among friends in this survey. One is "had an intimate talk"; others are helping out a friend and turning to a friend for help. -What role does trust play in these activities? The word "Role" means everything in a friendship because one thing leads to the other and the word "friend" goes with the word "trust". When we want to help out a friend or had an intimate talk with somebody else, it is because we trust that person and we have a good relationship; It is obviously that you are not going to do all those things with a person you don't know but with your friend. So Trust plays fundamental in these activities.

Response For Richard St. John's 8 Secrets of Success

        The video Richard St. John's 8 Secrets of Success spoken by Richard St. John's is about 8 ways to succeed. They are passion, work, good, focus, push, serve, idea and persist.
         Yes. I agree with John. You will be successful if you follow these 8 ways. Very interesting thing is Passion. According to John's speaking, passion make you do it for love, not for money. John described, "If you do it for love, the money comes anyway." That's true! I am this kind of people. I have been America over six years. I have spent a lot of time and money to improve Chinese human rights as a volunteer. I find a truth. No matter how much money I have spent, it came back the same anyway. So I focus on what I should do and just do it. Just like Chinese people say "if you do a good deed, you have a good return." Some companies offered me good jobs and good benefits. I never worry about job, housing, something like that. I feel so lucky. I just did a little bit and I got so many rewards. I really believe God is fair. Do from heart to help others, God will take care of us!

Richard St. John's 8 Secrets of Success

http://www.ted.com/talks/richard_st_john_s_8_secrets_of_success.html

 

This is really a two-hour presentation I give to high school students, cut down to three minutes. And it all started one day on a plane, on my way to TED, seven years ago. And in the seat next to me was a high school student, a teenager, and she came from a really poor family. And she wanted to make something of her life, and she asked me a simple little question. She said, "What leads to success?" And I felt really badly, because I couldn't give her a good answer. So I get off the plane, and I come to TED. And I think,  jeez,  I'm in the middle of a room of successful people! So why don't I ask them what helped them succeed, and pass it on to kids? So here we are, seven years, 500 interviews later, and I'm gonna tell you what really leads to success and makes TED-sters tick. And the first thing is passion. Freeman Thomas says, "I'm driven by my passion." TED-sters do it for love; they don't do it for money. Carol Coletta says, "I would pay someone to do what I do."And the interesting thing is: if you do it for love, the money comes anyway.Work! Rupert Murdoch said to me, "It's all hard work. Nothing comes easily. But I have a lot of fun." Did he say fun? Rupert? Yes!TED-sters do have fun working. And they work hard. I figured, they're not workaholics. They're workafrolics.Good! Alex Garden says, "To be successful put your nose down in something and get damn good at it."There's no magic; it's practice, practice, practice. And it's focus. Norman Jewison said to me, "I think it all has to do with focusing yourself on one thing." And push! David Gallo says, "Push yourself. Physically, mentally, you've gotta push, push, push." You gotta push through shyness and self-doubt. Goldie Hawn says, "I always had self-doubts. I wasn't good enough; I wasn't smart enough. I didn't think I'd make it." Now it's not always easy to push yourself, and that's why they invented mothers. (Laughter)Frank Gehry -- Frank Gehry said to me, "My mother pushed me." Serve! Sherwin Nuland says, "It was a privilege to serve as a doctor."Now a lot of kids tell me they want to be millionaires. And the first thing I say to them is: "OK, well you can't serve yourself; you gotta serve others something of value. Because that's the way people really get rich." Ideas! TED-ster Bill Gates says, "I had an idea: founding the first micro-computer software company." I'd say it was a pretty good idea. And there's no magic to creativity in coming up with ideas --it's just doing some very simple things. And I give lots of evidence. Persist! Joe Kraus says,"Persistence is the number one reason for our success."You gotta persist through failure. You gotta persist through crap!Which of course means "Criticism, Rejection, Assholes and Pressure."(Laughter)So, the big -- the answer to this question is simple: Pay 4,000 bucks and come to TED. Or failing that, do the eight things -- and trust me, these are the big eight things that lead to success.Thank you TED-sters for all your interviews!

As It Was in the Beginning - Question Number 6

         The article "As It Was in the Beginning" written by E. Pauline Johnson is about Esther, an Indian girl, who has strong feelings of homesickness. One night, everything changed. She fell in love with Laurence, who wants to marry her. But his uncle, Esther's Father Paul, is opposite because of Esther's uncertain blood. He was successful to convince Laurence to give up Esther and agree to marry a factor's daughter, a white girl. Esther lost her head and killed Laurence.
          This is a very sad story. A lovely girl became a killer during one night. That is very horrible. When she felt jealousy and hatred, she went so far as to kill his boyfriend. I understand why she acted as she did. I think she has serious mental problems. She can't control herself and goes  to extreme. I get a lesson from this story. Jealousy is very harmful. I should pay more attention to elimate it.
           There is old saying that compromise will make a conflict much easy to resolve. Think about it. If Esther stepped back when she has felt jealousy and hatred, what will happen? If she put herself on Laurence and Paul's positions and try to understand them, will she become a criminal? Definitely not. It's very important to have strong main conscious to subdue the bad thought.

Life of Pigs?

Life of Pigs? LOL
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=77F2XTV0YCw&list=SPbpfJPegjfAUlb278rQwquWGX3kZcTFS0

Happy Marriage

       Lily and Alex have a happy marriage. Lily as youngest child is the baby of her family. She is outgoing, adventurous, optimistic, creative and easygoing just as Pamela Withers describes the youngest child.. She has a lot of idea to have fun and makes Alex's life colorful. Alex is oldest child. He is very responsible, a high achiever with parental qualities to care for his younger siblings as well as Withers thinks the oldest child. He feels good to care for Lily. Their personalities  supplement each other. When they are arguing, Alex is very easy to step back, considering Lily's feeling. He can tolerate Lily's indulge. Because his positive attitude, sometimes, he even enjoys Lily's pouting. They are good for each other. That is the key point for their happy marriage. 

Lucille Forer's Description Is Accurate Of My Birth Oder

      How Your Birth Order Influences Your Life written by Lucille Forer is about bith order. According to Miss Forer's description, the middle child and another child shared the relationship with parents. Because parents have more experiences to be parents, so they aren't  too much tense and anxious. They are relax and easy to care for the middle child properly. The middle children enjoy a lot of advantages as a result of having more relaxed parents. They don't feel lonely as of  having siblings and don't need to be upset when they can't match parents expectation. Moreover, the middle child doesn't need to be a model of siblings and has a relax life. As a role of family, the middle child belicve he is smart, capable and easy going. He can deal with complicated things and develop more confidence.
      I agree with Lucille Forer's view. I am middle child. I got less presure from my parents. My life is light and relax. When I was a little girl, I understood I couldn't count on my parents and my elder brother and elder sister. So I tried to solve any problem what I have encountered. I have more freedom. My parents seldom worried about me. They though I was good and would be easy to get foothold in the society. I feel lucky I don't need to meet the high standars of my parents not as well as my elder brother who is the first grandson of my clan.

My Family

I have three siblings. I am middle child. The oldest one is my brother who is living in Houston. He is very nice, but sometime he is very bossy. He loves to play golf. My elder sister is living in mainland China. She is very smart. Sometimes she is annoying. I  had a lot of argue with her when we were children. But now I realize at that time I wasn't good. I should respect her even though she was talkative and tattletale. My mom lives with her. They are very closed and have a good relationship. My younger sister is also living in China. She is diligent and a hard worker. She is very interested in making money. She hopes to get promotion and earn more money.